In the aftermath of Charleston, SC, where nine people were murdered at the Emanuel AME church, the families of the victims forgave the murderer.
I was asked about this by Cam Edwards, host of Cam and Company on NRA News. I responded that I find forgiveness at times like this not a show strength, but actually a “curious weakness.”
Certainly, Christians are taught forgiveness, and no one should be surprised that these families looked to their faith to find a way to deal with the tragedy that has befallen them.
I have a far different view of forgiveness, in this case, than many. When I spoke with Cam, I said my view was far more honest and, “…far more natural and, in many ways, far more decent than sometimes the reactions I see.”
I said, “When someone kills your father, your mother, your friends, your family, and our default response is forgiveness; with all due respect, and they can choose how they are, I don’t wan’t forgiveness. I want to put my hands around them and I want to kill them myself.”
I find it a moment of curious weakness that we do not respond with, “You don’t get to kill us. We kill you. As a matter of fact, we kill you ten-fold.”
Yes. I don’t want to forgive murderers. I want to kill those who do such harm to the ones I love.
That’s rough talk. As I stated on my morning show:
I didn’t know that, particularly, I have a problem with forgiveness. But I do. I’m very bothered. I look at the forgiveness, and I am angered. I am vexed. Part of me is disgusted. I do not want forgiveness towards those who murder us. I want to destroy those who are trying to kill us and trying to separate us.
Wanting to kill the murderer, and acting out on such wants, are two very different things. We have a legal system which I believe in. My conversation was (which I have discussed over the last year in detail) on how we deal with those in our society who want to be violent, and want to do harm and destroy lives and property.
I want those people to know, before they do harm, that they do so at their own peril. I want society to be prepared for the worst situations, as that preparation will do the most to deter many of the worst situations from happening.
It would be wrong of me to decide how others decide to deal with their grief, but I am not deciding how others deal with grief. I am voicing a point of view that, honestly, I don’t want to forgive this murderer. He doesn’t deserve it.
Some might tell me that the forgiveness is for me, not for him. We will probably never agree. As I also stated, “If you want to argue with me that we need more love in the world, I will say OK. But can’t we direct it at those who deserve it?“